Healthy Relationships Essentials
Yesterday after work, I went for a seminar talking about Healthy Relationships Essentials.
Life is about relationships – with God, with others, and with us. This seminar consists of 3 sessions (monday, wednesday, friday), and I managed to go for the last session which talks about Identifying character traits and behaviours that reflect unsafe and unhealthy relationships in ourselves and others, and Learning how to manage such relationships.
The two most important aspect I look for in a friendship
I dont care whether he/she is plump/short/ugly.. As long as he/she is:
1) Trustworthy: Someone who can be a confidante, someone who is willing to listen to me and give me suggestions to get away from the situation, someone who will not spread my secrets to other people.
2) Supportive (Petrol Kiosk): Encourage me to do what I want, instead of giving cold shoulder. Unless I’m doing something that is immoral, I would apppreciate friend to be there for me, supporting me. A pillar for me when I feel tired.
The world of victims
Not everyone in this world is nice. There are always people who victimised the “weak” ones and took advantage of them. I was once a victim when I was in primary school. I was bullied by those ah bengs in my class. Events like using pencil to poke me, use water bottle to hit me. In the end, my parents had to write a letter to the form teacher and confronted those ah bengs’ parents. This is not a healthy relationship. Healthy relationship comes when my protection is not at risk. Since then, I told myself to be strong and to protect myself from the evil.
Preventing others to become the victim
As I was once a victim of such abuser, I tried to protect people around me to become the next victim. When others see us “weak and soft“, they will make use of this opportunity to make us be their slaves. (in school, at home, at the workplace) In this society, when we meet these scheming people, we have to play SMART.
I really hate people who pester me to do their things and claiming that it is urgent. Then when I ask them to do things for me, they will come out with different kind of excuses to drag my time or even, best, ignore me.
My thoughts
I like this seminar because it really teaches me how to create better relationships with people around me, and how not to become a victim of unhealthy relationships. Like a Libra balance, there must be a balance point between you and your friends. No one should take advantage of each other. It’s a mutual give-and-take between you and your friends.
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